Confidence- Not Cocky

“You are the only person on earth who can use your ability.” -Zig Ziglar



Let me start off by apologizing for not being very faithful with my blog. I don't blog as much as I'd like to, but I do plan on making it more of a habit in the future. It's a pretty soothing thing. If you don't do it, you should try it. Anyways, this summer has been a pretty interesting one in more ways than one. It's had some pretty highs, and some pretty lows, but all the while, lessons are being learned.

Let's be completely honest. How do successful people get successful? You're probably thinking, " a lot of hard work", or " a lot of luck involved", or whatever.. but the key is confidence. When your first thought when looking at a test is "oh shit".. what is usually the outcome? When you're up to bat in a baseball game and you have the same thought when you see the first pitch come your way, what will be the outcome? I think you catch the drift.

The same thing applies for life situations: careers, relationships, family matters, on and on and on.. Without confidence, where would you be? And maybe you're the kind of person that doesn't have much confidence. I would dare to say that even the most confident of people have struggles with this from time to time, but it doesn't have to be a daily habit. Everyone should have plenty of confidence, we live in a time where opportunities are endless, when you get down in many areas of life, there are so many methods to get back on top. There should be no excuses.

Let's take a moment to analyze the consequences of being a confidence person:
First of all, people would want to be around you. People are naturally attracted to others that have a higher level of confidence. That goes without saying. Secondly, Confident people have an easier time getting through tough situations. A lot of situations can take us by surprise and bring us down, but the confident person looks at themselves and thinks that they can make it through any situation because there is nothing new under the sun. There is no situation you can come to that someone hasn't gone through before.

What if you have no confidence? Well first off, it's a repellent. No one wants to be around a person who is always down on themselves. This applies to friends or romantic relationships. It is not an attractive way to be. Also, correct me if I'm wrong, but I think that people with no confidence almost look at confident people as if they're acting out of line. And lastly, when the person with no self confidence gets in a difficult situation, it's oragami. They fold under pressure.

Basically what I'm getting at is that there is no need for a lack of self confidence, we are all made in God's image and He wants nothing more than for us to live life to the fullest and to make every moment count. If you get broken up with, who cares? It's that person's loss because if someone doesn't want -YOU-, then they aren't worth your time. Trust me. You can aaaaalways do better. Relationships can blind you.. But with self-confidence, you can say that you're the prize and you're the one that is worth being sought after. If school isn't going well, try to wake up everyday and think that you're going to make it a good one, no class can conquer a person. You have the capability of tearing down a classroom with your mind. Make it happen.

Above all, negativity can get us down. But when you have self-confidence, you can do anything. Dress up for class, talk about yourself sometimes, let people know you're worth it.. because you are. ALWAYS. Confidence is key. It'll get you places.

All Guys Are Just the Same!!!

"Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired."
Robert Frost


Whether you are a girl or a guy, young or old, I'm sure you have heard a girl complaining about all guys being the same. You hear it all the time. If one guy does them bad, they resort to making these kinds of generalizations about the male species, some even saying they're done with guys all together (yeah right). But let's be honest, i guess some do mean it.. (Rosie O'Donnell, Ellen Degeneres). Well I think i have come to a conclusion and here it is right here: All guys are capable of being what girls like to hate, but it takes right girl to make him actually be the guy girls dream about.

Let me go into a little more detail about this. Say for instance you have had, or know someone who have had horrible relationship experience, guy or girl. Most girls have no problem admitting this, but guys, many times, lose interest in girls and that's when a relationship turns into what Dane Cook calls.. a relation..shit. It's not good. That's when the girl complains about the guy never being sweet or showing her attention and so on, while the guy always complains to his friends about his girl always nagging him. At this point, that particular relationship is through.

Girls, most of you really try. That is your nature. You're made to be more endearing and want to make things work.. EVEN if you KNOW that it will never work out. Most times than not, you genuinely want it to work out. But if the guy is not responding, most of the time, he's not the right guy, and you're not the right girl. Not in that particular instance. It's a tough pill to swallow, but this shouldn't be a depressing thing. Trust me. It's better to be single than with the wrong person.

Okay, I got a little bit side-tracked. Let me get back to the point. If a guy is in a position to where he isn't experiencing the thrill of the possibility that a relationship might really work out, he absolutely will not be the guy that a girl desires. It's physically impossible. It's pretty cliche to say this, but it takes two. The girl usually will try, and more often than not, it comes down to the guy to really make it work or not, after all, he is the one that does the asking out, taking on dates, and proposing right? The girl plays a huge role but it's no secret that if the guy doesn't play his part, that equals no relationship.

So what does a healthy relationship look like? Well you can usually look at the guy and find out. He will be absolutely thrilled by the person he desires. He will brag about her to his friends, and want nothing more than to be with that person as much as he possibly can. A lot of guys have two images of girls. The outside.. and the inside. Many love the outside, and wish the inside would improve.. or they really like the inside.. but trust me, if the outside isn't up to par, they won't give that a chance either.

Here is my point, there comes a time when a guy's view of a girl on the inside and outside becomes the same and everything about that person is all he knows he ever wanted with absolutely no doubts. Is that true love? Yes i believe it is. And until he finds this, he might not be a complete dick to a girl, but there is no way he can really express himself and give all he has to give to someone until he finds the unique person that truly gets to him like not other can.

So my advice, be real, you can't find that person until you're real with not only everyone else, but yourself. Demand that people like you for who you are, and I swear that good things will happen. Trust me, i've learned from experience :)

Coming to Crossroads

"God gave us the gift of life; it is up to us to give ourselves the gift of living well"- Voltaire

as a kid, there aren't many "crossroads" that you come to. That's one of the best things about being a kid. We were carefree for the most part, and also didn't really care that much about what others thought of us. We did what we wanted, and basically said screw what others think. I'm a kid and it doesn't matter.


But things change. You get older, and things start happening. We come to "crossroads". This usually is something big happening in your life, for the good or for the bad. Something like a relationship ending, or getting into college, or not getting into college, etc. I have came to many crossroads within the last few years and I've responded well to some, and no so great to others. The main thing that I'm getting at is to think of these crossroads as something that has to happen. No one can go into the past and change things. The crossroad isn't what defines a person. The way him or her reacts to it means the world.


I've learned a few things about how to deal with a few different situations. For instance, when it comes to a girl.. if you really like her, do all you can to help that relationship move along. Let her know exactly how you feel, and if she shuns it, walk away. There is NEVER any use in worrying over someone who doesn't want to be with you. EVER.

Another thing is always forgive. No matter how much wrong someone has done to you, you have to forgive. It's easy to think that the best way to deal with someone who has done you wrong is to stay pissed at them. But guess what? You hold in anger, and it hurts you, but guess what they're doing? Not a thing. They sleep well at night, so you're only hurting yourself by not forgiving.

Above all, wisdom is the spice of life. Guard your heart and your mind. Wisdom is the only thing that makes this possible. Learn about the world around you and the life that you live will be so much better.

Be yourself, make others happy without compromising your own happiness and make sure no one ever tries to get in the way of this.

If you find yourself at the lowest of lows: Lose your job, your girl, money, a friend, a loved one, etc. The only thing left to do is get back on your feet and don't give up. Just like Jimmy Valvano said before he died. Don't give up. Don't EVER give up.