All Guys Are Just the Same!!!

"Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired."
Robert Frost


Whether you are a girl or a guy, young or old, I'm sure you have heard a girl complaining about all guys being the same. You hear it all the time. If one guy does them bad, they resort to making these kinds of generalizations about the male species, some even saying they're done with guys all together (yeah right). But let's be honest, i guess some do mean it.. (Rosie O'Donnell, Ellen Degeneres). Well I think i have come to a conclusion and here it is right here: All guys are capable of being what girls like to hate, but it takes right girl to make him actually be the guy girls dream about.

Let me go into a little more detail about this. Say for instance you have had, or know someone who have had horrible relationship experience, guy or girl. Most girls have no problem admitting this, but guys, many times, lose interest in girls and that's when a relationship turns into what Dane Cook calls.. a relation..shit. It's not good. That's when the girl complains about the guy never being sweet or showing her attention and so on, while the guy always complains to his friends about his girl always nagging him. At this point, that particular relationship is through.

Girls, most of you really try. That is your nature. You're made to be more endearing and want to make things work.. EVEN if you KNOW that it will never work out. Most times than not, you genuinely want it to work out. But if the guy is not responding, most of the time, he's not the right guy, and you're not the right girl. Not in that particular instance. It's a tough pill to swallow, but this shouldn't be a depressing thing. Trust me. It's better to be single than with the wrong person.

Okay, I got a little bit side-tracked. Let me get back to the point. If a guy is in a position to where he isn't experiencing the thrill of the possibility that a relationship might really work out, he absolutely will not be the guy that a girl desires. It's physically impossible. It's pretty cliche to say this, but it takes two. The girl usually will try, and more often than not, it comes down to the guy to really make it work or not, after all, he is the one that does the asking out, taking on dates, and proposing right? The girl plays a huge role but it's no secret that if the guy doesn't play his part, that equals no relationship.

So what does a healthy relationship look like? Well you can usually look at the guy and find out. He will be absolutely thrilled by the person he desires. He will brag about her to his friends, and want nothing more than to be with that person as much as he possibly can. A lot of guys have two images of girls. The outside.. and the inside. Many love the outside, and wish the inside would improve.. or they really like the inside.. but trust me, if the outside isn't up to par, they won't give that a chance either.

Here is my point, there comes a time when a guy's view of a girl on the inside and outside becomes the same and everything about that person is all he knows he ever wanted with absolutely no doubts. Is that true love? Yes i believe it is. And until he finds this, he might not be a complete dick to a girl, but there is no way he can really express himself and give all he has to give to someone until he finds the unique person that truly gets to him like not other can.

So my advice, be real, you can't find that person until you're real with not only everyone else, but yourself. Demand that people like you for who you are, and I swear that good things will happen. Trust me, i've learned from experience :)